I leave you with photographs, pictures of trickery...
Today's Lyrical Challenge from Chase. The song is "Disintegration" by The Cure.
Can I make a suggestion to all of you out there reading this post right now? If you have boxes of miscellaneous stuff from your past, please go through it right now.
Yes, I mean stop whatever you are doing this instant and go examine the artifacts of your past before it affects your future. Put away the keyboard and mouse. If you are cooking something, stop. I don't care if it burns. If you are at work, grab your keys and drive home immediately.
Recently, an old acquaintance of mine and his fiancee had a "situation" arise in which she discovered a Case Logic CD book filled with discs that he had acquired throughout college. Some were the typical college things like class files, projects, pirated porn. The basics. Nothing much to worry about.
A couple others had files pertaining to an ex. A few photos of their past together, but also letters and e-mails avowing his love for her.
The same thing happened to me a couple years ago when Katie discovered a few photos of an ex-girlfriend of mine that I had no idea still existed. Yes, they were clean photos.
These were, of course, items from our past. These are things that neither of us cared about in the slightest, nor did we even realize we still had them. In my case, they were in a box I knew I had but whose contents I was unaware of. In his case, they just wound up in his black leather book o' discs, packed away and forgotten.
Until they were rediscovered.
It took a while for my friend to calm her down and convince her that he didn't even know he still had them. He was more than willing to dispose of them had he even realized he still had them. They were just in a box that he brought back from college. See no evil... you know how it goes.
So I would recommend that you save yourself from potential headaches and dispose of these things that "mean nothing to you." Find a moment when you can be alone to examine all the boxes labeled "My Stuff" that are in your attic, closet, crawlspace, basement, etc., and throw them out.
Nay, destroy the discs, papers, CDs, photos, etc. Employ sledgehammers, drill presses, tin snips, chainsaws, blowtorches... whatever it takes. Then burn the remains. Finally, bury the ashes.
In situations such as this, "thorough" is the operative word.
You'll thank me and my friend later.
This is the first in a series of four lyrical challenge response posts. Today's post, suggested by Chase, was the number one vote getter with seven. The other three winners were:
- "I hope you know that this will go down in your permanent record" from "Kiss Off" by the Violent Femmes suggested by Karl (six votes)
- "Letters I've written; never meaning to send" from "Nights in White Satin" by The Moody Blues suggested by Rick (tie, five votes)
- "Fat bottomed girls, you make the rockin' world go round" from "Fat Bottomed Girls" by Queen suggested by rennratt (tie, five votes)
I will complete these other challenges on Thursday, September 14; Tuesday, September 19; and Thursday, September 21, if all goes well. No word on which ones will be posted in which order, though. That all depends upon my personal inspiration.
Nice tie in!
Posted by: Anomie-Atlanta | Tuesday, 12 September 2006 at 02:22 PM
challenge well met there...
i figure pictures from the past are just that...i still have some pics of old boyfriends. it doesn't mean i still want them, just that i remember them...
Posted by: suze | Tuesday, 12 September 2006 at 02:33 PM
Lord only knows all the stuff I've got stashed. I'm a notorious packrat. Love letters, photos, everything but maybe the empty lube containers. My future wife is gonna be pissed. You know, if she can find anything.
Posted by: Karl | Tuesday, 12 September 2006 at 03:11 PM
what a lovely concept!
As for the old photos, I'm generally the vindictive sort to get rid of all of that pretty quickly. Hopefully I'll be safe! :)
Posted by: Bre | Tuesday, 12 September 2006 at 03:13 PM
Yay! I WON!
And great post, too! I've found similar pictures...and some not so clean. Eep!
I would say more about this, but I'm STILL busy vomiting about Karl's most recent video. This might take awhile...
Posted by: Chase | Tuesday, 12 September 2006 at 03:16 PM
I hve too much of this stuff... in a box... under my bed... I really should throw it away but every time I try I get all overemotional and start remembering stuff... but I'm single so it doesn't matter... sigh...
Posted by: Bec | Tuesday, 12 September 2006 at 03:17 PM
Anomie Atlanta, thanks, it worked out quite well, didn't it?
Suze, thanks, they are the past. But it can still be a bit hurtful to see this stuff still around. Might make the current significant other question loyalty or, worse yet, if they read some of the same terms of endearment that are used on them. That would be bad.
Karl, we're all thankful the lube is gone.
Bre, one of those Friends-esque cleansing bonfires?
Chase, yes you won. Not so clean, eh? Can we see a post about that? Karl's video cracked me the hell up.
Bec, it's not terrible to have that stuff around now. But beware of the time when you're not taken. And, trust me, you will get to that time. Fret not.
Posted by: kapgar | Tuesday, 12 September 2006 at 04:56 PM
i don't want to throw that stuff out. i am overly sentimental i guess. and unattached! woo hoo for singlehood. ;)
Posted by: ms. sizzle | Tuesday, 12 September 2006 at 06:08 PM
LMAO - I am with Sizz; I still have that stuff but it is of course, in storage with my parental unit so yanno. I guess women are more likely to get upset over that but here is another side to the whole thing...why look anyway? Every man has a past but that is why it is called the past. I'm just sayin ;).
Posted by: Hilly | Tuesday, 12 September 2006 at 06:10 PM
That's one advantage to your most significant ex now being your brother-in-law -- I'm allowed to have all the photos I want! The letters, emails and IM transcripts, though ... those had to go. No sense ASKING for trouble.
Posted by: SJ | Tuesday, 12 September 2006 at 10:36 PM
Great post!
I am lucky. I had a fire take everything I owned last year so no worries on dealing with the past. Always look on the bright side!
Posted by: francesdanger | Tuesday, 12 September 2006 at 10:44 PM
I got rid of all the letters and journals, but I couldn't bear to get rid of the photos. Not because of the people in them, but becuase of the memories they hold.
Posted by: kilax | Tuesday, 12 September 2006 at 11:42 PM
Sizzle, that's one way to look at it. ;-)
Hilly, most of the looking occurs because you are cleaning. That's how I've found stuff from the past. You try to get rid of junk and, blammo, there it is. Always when you least expect it.
SJ, that's still so weird. They must both be quite secure. I don't know what I'd do if Katie divorced me for my brother.
francesdanger, I never quite thought of fires as lucky. But, as you said, "the bright side of life..."
Kilax, I got rid of almost all of them. I think there might still be one or two around somewhere that I don't know about.
Posted by: kapgar | Wednesday, 13 September 2006 at 06:52 AM
I still have cards from exes. My hubby never goes through my memorabilia box. I worry though about if I die. I would hate for those to be left behind. They are ancient history. I guess I need to go through that box one of these days soon. One of my exes told me once that he still had pictures of us and cards and that his wife tried to make him throw them out and he wouldn't. I wonder why she hates me so much to this day. Hmmmm
Posted by: jacquie | Wednesday, 13 September 2006 at 06:58 AM
Great advice. Except I'd have to destroy all my writing to demonstrate that I am not attached to my past. My past gives me writing fodder. Whoops. Whoever ends up with me is going to have A LOT of public writing to deal with. I kinda feel sorry for him.
Posted by: Jill | Wednesday, 13 September 2006 at 10:58 AM
Jacquie, I would not want any of my exes to still be holding on to mementoes of me. That would imply an obsessiveness I just don't want to deal with.
Jill, "public writing" as in you leave it out or as in it's been published, a la Sex and the City?
Posted by: kapgar | Wednesday, 13 September 2006 at 01:23 PM