Sometimes you wanna go...
Sorry it's been so long since my last post. I tried to come up with something worthwhile late last week and my mind just failed miserably. And, since part of the point of this pseudo-hiatus is to not post crap, I didn't.
This past Friday night, I got together with a couple long-time friends for the first time in a long time. Just three guys out at a bar drinking, chatting, and maybe eating a little to help soak up all the Guinness. It was fun and it had been far too long.
But I have to admit that I did feel a little weird during this whole event.
We went to a pub and tavern that is actually right up the street from where I live. If I needed to, I could walk there (thankfully, I didn't need to). Yet, despite living so close, I felt the role of outsider to the x degree.
When I arrived, MadIrishMan (as some of you may know him from comments a while back) was already in full swing. He may have been on Guinness one or two, I didn't bother asking. Not much point. But he was also already chatting up the bartenders who all knew him by name.
Then B- (also how he refers to himself here on my blog) showed up. Immediately he started chatting up everybody. Not just the bartenders, but the wait staff, greeters, and management.
This was not just the normal, run-of-the-mill smalltalk either. In some cases, what they were talking about was clearly a continuation of conversations started well in the past. Like old friends picking up where they last left off.
For B-, this is completely understandable. He used to work at the place. And much of the crew on staff that night worked there at the same time he did. MadIrishMan, on the other hand, never worked there. He was just someone they knew from the many... many... times he'd been a patron there.
I actually found myself a bit jealous. I liked the idea of having "that place" that you can go to where people do know you; as they sing in the Cheers theme, "sometimes you wanna go where everybody knows your name." I wanted to have that exhilaration of being in this place and having people welcome you by name, have the employees being nice to you not just because you are a potential tip but because they know you and legitimately give a damn. I don't want to go so far as having everyone shout "Kevin!" when I enter, although that might still feel kinda cool every so often.
How can I achieve this kind of recognition and localized fame on a reduced budget?
Totally Unrelated Aside (TUA): Yesterday, Katie and I watched the first movie in a long time that we both enjoyed in all regards. The film was Waitress starring Keri Russell and Nathan Fillion.
Basically, it's the story of a small-town waitress and pie maven named Jenna (Russell) who is in an abusive relationship and longs to escape. Her plans to just leave her husband are thwarted when she finds out she is pregnant. However, as a result, she meets and falls in love with her doctor (Fillion) with whom she begins an affair.
Yes, it's about adultery, but it's an incredibly endearing movie that has outstanding acting by everyone involved. Plus the writing and directing by co-star Adrienne Shelly, who was murdered near the end of production of the film, was fantastic.
And if you need another reason to see this film, how about Andy Griffith turning in one of the funniest performances of his long and storied career? I don't think I've ever laughed as hard watching him.
Yeah, this one is high up on my "best of" list for 2007.
Maybe it was more of a longing for what used to be. Not that you don't enjoy every moment of your time with Katie, just the feeling of being out with the guys being a different sort of fulfillment.
Posted by: Lisa | Monday, 03 December 2007 at 07:38 AM
I was very excited with my copy of Waitress showed up in the mail last week. I had meant to see the movie over the summer.
Posted by: Dagny | Monday, 03 December 2007 at 08:37 AM
I went out with my two sons on Saturday and drinking was involved. This was their favorite place to watch football, hangout, shoot pool. EVERYBODY knew them and when they introduced me I suddenly became EVERBODY'S Metalmom. I didn't pay for one drink! I had a lot of fun. I think I'll do it more often.
You're right. The feeling of being a 'regular' is kind of nice.
Posted by: metalmom | Monday, 03 December 2007 at 10:49 AM
we both have a "mad irishman" tee hee. ;)
i wanted to see that movie- how come it wasn't in theaters (or if it was, no one heard about it?). i will go rent it upon your recommendation!
Posted by: sizzle | Monday, 03 December 2007 at 11:14 AM
I guess you just need to spend more time at the bar, Kevin. ;)
No, all joking aside, I think our busy lives are what keeps us from having a "place" like that. At least everyone knows your name in the blogosphere!
Posted by: kilax | Monday, 03 December 2007 at 11:23 AM
Lisa, that is a definite possibility. We're going out again this Friday!
Dagny, I hope you enjoy it as much as we did. We got ours from Netflix as well.
metalmom, woah. Now that's taking my desire to the next level! Free drinks! Can I be EVERYBODY'S METALMOM'S BEST BLOG BUD the next time?
sizzle, it seems a lot of people do. I see that name a lot in the blogosphere, too! And it was in theaters, but limited release. Not all theaters carried it, I think. But most markets had it in at least one or two local theaters.
kilax, me? More time in a bar? YAY! True on the last bit. Whether they know me with fondness or not is something else altogether. ;-)
Posted by: kapgar | Monday, 03 December 2007 at 11:41 AM
I'm with Kilax... you're well known around these here parts! I'm so anti-social that I know no one. Hubs, however, grew up here and knows EVERYONE. He's "that guy"... not that he goes to the bars or anything, but everywhere he goes he sees someone he knows. It's weird. I have no clue how we manage to stay together, we're so different. (He says he's getting more like me every day...)
I'll have to check out that movie. Thanks for the recommendation~~
Posted by: sue | Monday, 03 December 2007 at 12:03 PM
I watched The Waitress yesterday and it was the perfect Sunday flick!! I've been very disappointed with the movie selection lately but this one was a goodie.
Posted by: Elaine | Monday, 03 December 2007 at 12:47 PM
sue, oh that guy, eh? Yeah, I was never one of them. Sadly. *sniffle* ;-)
Elaine, absolutely perfect, wasn't it? Glad to see someone else enjoyed it as well.
Posted by: kapgar | Monday, 03 December 2007 at 01:43 PM
My "Cheers" bar is referred to locally as "The Big O" and is staffed by folks I went to high school with or grew up running around with. When we walk in it's "Bre! Frank! Cyndi! Matt!" and it really is that cool!
Posted by: Bre | Monday, 03 December 2007 at 02:32 PM
The last time I had the 'Cheers' thing was at uni when me and my 'you're my besht mate, I luv ooo' used to go over to the erm... (the erm... thingy pub over the road from our student house), in our pyjamas. Good times, good times...
Re Waitress - you had me at Nathan Fillion...
Posted by: Bec | Monday, 03 December 2007 at 05:02 PM
B's a little too close to BA. I don't know how much I appreciate someone infringing on my moniker...
Posted by: BA | Monday, 03 December 2007 at 05:45 PM
Bre, the big "O," eh? Bet that name wound up in a bunch of sex jokes.
Bec, I figured I had you then. Heh.
BA, the first time he signed a comment that way, I thought it was you but having miskeyed. I was confused for a bit. You appeared far too similar to this other guy for it to be a coincidence. Alas...
Posted by: kapgar | Monday, 03 December 2007 at 07:26 PM
"Waitress" took me completely by surprise, and quickly hit my "Best of 2007" list as well. I'm a little dumbfounded that it didn't receive a little more attention than it did.
Posted by: Dave2 | Monday, 03 December 2007 at 09:42 PM
Dave, I had a feeling I would like it based on all the positive things I heard about it. But you know how I operate, I try to downplay my anticipation for fear of it disappointing me. This did not at all. It was fantastic in all aspects. I, too, am surprised by the lack of attention overall. Glad you liked it!
Posted by: kapgar | Tuesday, 04 December 2007 at 06:11 AM