Love letters in the sand...
I know today is Self-Love Day, but before I detail why I love myself, I want to make quick mention of the other holiday that shares this date...
Happy Valentine's Day!
To all of you, to your friends, to your families, to all my friends and family members. But, most importantly, to Katie. I love you, hon.
And I guess the reason why I started this way was because it does work itself in nicely with Self-Love Day. For me, a lot of the things I love about myself revolve around Katie. I know that sounds cheesy, but it's true.
I love my life. It's not perfect in any way, shape or form, but I love it because Katie is in it with me and she loves me as much as I love her. I'm not an easy person to live with. Hell, there are times I've wanted to break up with myself. But Katie has shown an infinite amount of patience with me, which has, in turn, helped me improve my own ability to be patient with others.
Before you laugh or cry foul in my comments because, like you, I have also read some of my ranting posts expressing hatred with others and their stupidity, do take note of one thing... just because I feel I have patience doesn't mean that everyone out there deserves to be a recipient of said patience. I will select those I feel deserve my being patient with them.
I also love my willingness to try new things. There are very few things that I am completely unwilling to try at least once. Life is too short to be closed minded about new experiences. I want to live life as much as I can and so much as our bank account will allow us to (okay, so there is one restricting factor).
And, finally, I love that I'm a sap. I love being romantic when I can. I love public displays of affection, within reason. I love that I watch romantic comedies and enjoy them and that two of my favorite movies of all time are Sleepless in Seattle and Notting Hill. Does this make me less of a man? I'd argue no.
I'd better stop now or I'm going to have nothing left for the Fourth Annual Self-Love Day.
Totally Unrelated Aside (TUA): As you know, this day now also has a bit of a somber side to it for me being a graduate of Northern Illinois University and this being the first anniversary of the campus shootings that took the lives of five innocent students.
The university is holding some memorial services today as well as an art exhibit and wreath presentations. Katie and I were going to attend, but she's pretty sick right now and we're going to stay in.
So I'd just like to take a moment to remember those five students who lost their lives one year ago today... Catalina Garcia, 20, of Cicero; Julianna Gehant, 32, of Mendota; Ryanne Mace, 19, of Carpentersville; Gayle Dubowski, 20, of Carol Stream; and Daniel Parmenter, 20, of Westchester.
[Taken by me one year ago. Hey, Chicagoist picked up on this photo today.]
I love that you take your patriotism so seriously, that you are so completely devoted to Katie... oh and that you played Evenflow on Guitar Hero for us. :)
Definitely sending thoughts to the family of those of who are no doubt having a very difficult day today. Thanks for the reminder.
Posted by: Nat | Saturday, 14 February 2009 at 02:49 PM
It's good to hear that I'm not alone as a hetero male that is not afraid of romantic movies. 50 First Dates and Pretty Woman are a couple that I'm a sucker for. And Grosse Pointe Blank - but I think there is enough gunplay in that one to drive the testosterone factor back up.
Posted by: eric | Saturday, 14 February 2009 at 02:59 PM
Sometimes the patriotism doesn't come easily, lemme tell ya. And as for PJ, I knew if not a single other person appreciated me playing that song, it would be you. ;-)
Posted by: kapgar | Saturday, 14 February 2009 at 03:03 PM
You are definitely not along. I enjoyed 50 First Dates as well. Very Groundhog Day with a twist.
Posted by: kapgar | Saturday, 14 February 2009 at 03:04 PM
I love that you're a sap too. ;-) But I love how supportive your are. You always have my back and are rooting for me and I appreciate that so much. Plus, you willingly swap tunes with me and have turned me onto some good music.
Big love to you, blog brother.
Posted by: Sizzle | Saturday, 14 February 2009 at 03:17 PM
I will always have your back. Are you still planning on coming in for BlogHer this summer?
Posted by: kapgar | Saturday, 14 February 2009 at 03:23 PM
I think this is the best Self-Love entry I've read to date. It made me all warm and fuzzy and mushy-feeling on the inside!
It's so refreshing and awesome to see someone completely and totally in love with his wife and not afraid to show it.
I pink fluffy heart you for that!
TUA Comment: I've been reading you for a few weeks now, also... and this is the first time I've commented. So you're not the only... well... Lur... I just can't bring myself to say it. (hahah) Anyway, we're in the same club and I won't hold it against you for just now commenting, if you won't hold it against me for doing the same thing? Kthx! :)
Posted by: Amber | Saturday, 14 February 2009 at 05:06 PM
"For me, a lot of the things I love about myself revolve around Katie. I know that sounds cheesy, but it's true."
That does not sound cheesy at all. It sounds heavenly and Katie is one lucky girl! And I am so glad that I can call you my honorary blog boyfriend :) (no worries, Katie, he's all yours!)
Posted by: DutchBitch | Sunday, 15 February 2009 at 05:04 AM
Totally your blog boyfriend. And thanks!
Posted by: kapgar | Sunday, 15 February 2009 at 09:31 AM
Thanks! It feels good knowing that the post was read in the same light that it was intended as I wrote it. I really do mean everything I said here.
I can't believe we've both been lurking for so long. I think I've been reading you since we started following each other on Twitter. What's it been now? Oh and I totally forgive you and hold nothing against you. ;-)
Posted by: kapgar | Sunday, 15 February 2009 at 09:47 AM
Awesome that Chicagoist picked up your photo. That's a great shot you took.
I love Notting Hill. Such a great movie and while some claim it can be sappy, it does have a great feel to it. Plus is has one of my favorite lines in a movie "I'm also just a girl, standing in front of a boy, asking him to love her." Call me a sap, too.
Posted by: martymankins | Sunday, 15 February 2009 at 12:22 PM
First of all, I heard "I Remember You" yesterday for the first time in a long long time and now look...you used it here! Awesome,
I love how genuinely kind you are, how fun you are, the fact that you use song lyrics as tittles and yanno, I could go on and on and on!
Posted by: Hilly | Sunday, 15 February 2009 at 01:09 PM
I think my favorite line from NH was "James Bond never has to put up with this sort of shit." And thanks on the photo.
Posted by: kapgar | Sunday, 15 February 2009 at 01:55 PM
Funny how that works with the music, isn't it? Thank you for the kind words. And feel free to "go on and on and on." ;-)
Posted by: kapgar | Sunday, 15 February 2009 at 01:56 PM
I'm a bit late, but better late then never I say!
You are...
*sweet
*kind-hearted
*smart
*and love and cherish your wife so much that I respect you more for it!
Posted by: Marie | Monday, 16 February 2009 at 10:35 AM
Why thank you!
Posted by: kapgar | Monday, 16 February 2009 at 11:23 AM
I love that you express your love so freely, and don't feel ashamed of it. I love the way you express yourself, in general! :)
Posted by: kilax | Tuesday, 17 February 2009 at 05:10 PM
Yeah, not all those expressions, at least here on the blog, are necessarily all that loving, are they? ;-)
Posted by: kapgar | Tuesday, 17 February 2009 at 05:46 PM